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Over the weekend, I saw an episode of some show on the ID Disovery Channel. The tragic story (as with every show on the channel) was as follows:
A woman decided to give a shot at online dating. She joined a dating website. She met a guy and hit it off. They dated some. Her friends did not care for him, and eventually they broke up. As to be expected, a few weeks (months maybe?) later, he drives across the country, kills an ex-girlfriend he had not seen in ten years and then goes and tries to kill the woman who was the focus of the story.
That is really understating it…I will leave out the gory details, but that he failed to take her life is not due to being sloppy or rushed. He made every effort to make this into a homocide investigation. It is amazing she lived to tell her tale. But one detail got me. She is suing the dating agency for ten million dollars because the website had no warnings.
Really? We are going to demand that websites include disclaimers of potential sociopaths and psychopaths using the site to get dates? And would a disclaimer have changed anything? Would she have questioned the guy if only the web site had included a warning label? Would she have not used the website? If she had met the same guy through a friend, would she sue them for $10 million?
What she went through was horrific…but what happened was no more the fault of the the web site than it was hers for breaking up with him. He made the decision to turn to become a murderer. He chose to try and kill her. The web site had no ability to prevent him from crossing into the territory of murderous villain in her life. I get that there is the desire to hold someone accountable… But the responsible party is the person who deceptively portrayed themselves as someone who is not on the verge of a murder binge.
About the lack of presence here on the blog. Life has had some big upsets and changes, none really things one wants to discuss, but I may share for folks who are finding their life hitting the same areas. It could certainly be worse, but life is not without it’s downs at this time.
So, I watched a guy get in trouble for solicitation in a store tonight. What was he soliciting? His Christian Ministry. He was showing brochures that were prominently sticking out of his shirt pocket. He was told not to do so once…and then he did it a second time. He told the security officer and manager he forgot the brochures were in his pocket.
You know…the brochure he had out and open three minutes before. He was lying about talking about his Christian ministry.
And yet we are always surprised when politicians get caught red handed doing something actually bad and they lie about it.
I will be honest…if I were to write a book about the worst parts of Christian music? Carman would probably be the penultimate chapter. I am not a fan (though in my pre-teens I was). Among the host of problems? The weird presentation of Jesus as an ass kicking hero beating up the devil and demons is just a weird portrayal of his Charismatic Christianity.
I confess, I was a bit surprised to learn that he has not taken this attitude with the revelation of having terminal cancer.
“I will not leave this world quietly and I want the devil to know that he put cancer on absolutely the wrong Italian. I have a few good years and before it’s too late I want to see your faces, shake your hands and hug your necks,” the New Jersey native wrote. “But mostly I want to see one of you get healed of what threatens your future and I really want to see someone you love come to Christ. Now lets get back to business, we have to work while its day for soon the night comes.”
I made this the other day…
I am contemplating taking on inexpensive commissions. Like $20 tops (for full color images). Looking to make some extra cash.
Or maybe that is me being silly… you can see some work here.
Maybe it is just my age…but I am genuinely tierd of listening to people go on about how vacuous our culture is and how it ties to societal ills. Not because our culture has no facets that are vacuous. It certainly does. But usually when people are making that criticism, they really are decrying that people might take the time to discuss stuff they find unimportant.
It is also a criticism I see friends and aquaintences making based on stuff they see on VH1 and E! And that is kind of the problem. If your criticisms are based on shows dedicated to light and fluffy material, it is going to heavily skew how you are perceiving the culture at large.
While it can be amusing to shine a light on a dumb tweet, Facebook post or news story, that makes for a terrible jumping off point for cultural commentary. I mean, do people post dumb things on Facebook and Twitter?
But you know what?
People also post witty, thoughtful and good things on Twitter and Facebook. I see thoughts and ideas that challenge the status quo, that make me think about how and why I believe what I believe.
And unsurprisingly, those people complaining about the vacuous nature of society never see themselves as part of the problem. Instead, they are the ones “shining a light” on it. They are not expressing an epiphany borne of introspection. Rather it is merely a chance to lash out at “culture”. The commentary is often vague complaints about Kardashians and the so on. Maybe the fact that I read nuanced thoughts and discussions regarding problems within culture leave me simple wanting moer than complaints about how hollow culture is in general.
As frustrating as some of those vacuous regions of our culture can be…the critics can be equally frustrating.
You might have not noticed…but I was silent much of December. The year ended very poorly. I took an unexpected financial hit, had all sorts of projects, work was not going well…it all came together to make one of my lousiest Decembers ever.
So, here we are, 2013. Still a lot of projects on my plate. It will be a bit spotty over the next several months. But hopefully for the positive. Five days a week are not likely, but I hope to have a few posts a week. So, forget December…
Hope your New Year is off to a swell start!
So…yeah. Friday pretty much is…well…on our minds. One of the worst mass shootings in our national history…and some of the youngest victims. I could really only think of the families and my own nephews. Both are to young for school…but as my oldest nephew creeps towards his second birthday next month, school seems inevitable.
But what became immediately frustrating was seeing the gun control debate that erupted. Before I saw the calls to gun control I saw people complaining in anticipation. And when I saw calls for gun control? I saw vile and hateful responses from the pro-gun lobby. This was, of, course, alongside their calls that this was not the time. Let the families grieve. But when is the right time to discuss it? In the minds of the anti-control lobby? Never.
Time after time, people are shot and killed in our schools, workplaces, places of worship… And we cannot talk about changes to our gun laws. The NRA and gun lobby will not hear of it. All because of a straw man.
Nobody is talking about outlawing guns completely. Nobody is coming after hunting rifles or a lot of basic handguns people purchaese. Simply, people are looking to make certain types of guns less accessible. A lot of the guns in recent mass shootings were purchased legally. If the death of twenty children cannot make one at least be willing to discuss it? I shudder.